When the wedding day came around, a woman was determined to wear a beautiful white gown. What her soon-to-be-husband did, though, was not what she expected. He told her she had to wear red instead of white when she surprised him with the white dress. Find out the truth about his shocking request by reading on.
Someone wrote in Reddit’s “Off My Chest” thread in November 2022 without giving her name. In the beginning, she said that she and her fiancé had been together for six years and had been engaged for eight months. Her fiancé, whom she called Ryan, sometimes gave his opinion, but she did most of the planning for the wedding.
About a month ago, in October, Ryan asked OP for something they didn’t expect. He said that he and some coworkers had been talking about wedding plans and that he thought she shouldn’t wear a white dress.
The original poster didn’t understand Ryan’s idea, but she ignored it for now because she thought it was related to his artistic side. At first, she thought it might have something to do with the wedding shots or some other creative thought.
After the fight, she couldn’t help but be “disgusted” by what he did, which made her think twice about their future together.
But OP was adamant that she wanted to wear white, and she told him this. Ryan seemed to be both annoyed and annoyed, but in the end he let the matter go.
What did the woman do after she bought the white wedding dress?
The woman finally bought her wedding dress two weeks before the wedding, which caused a lot of trouble with her fiancé. He was clearly annoyed and insisted on seeing the dress, but she politely refused because she wanted to keep the surprise for their big day.
He went even further and asked what color the dress was. When she told him it was white, his response was nothing short of explosive. Because a white wedding dress is usually what women choose, she didn’t understand why she was so set on having one. When she asked him why he liked red so much, Ryan told her a shocking belief: he thought brides should only wear white if they were “pure.”
Offering some context, their relationship had begun when OP was 21, with her fiancé just turning 20. He had been a virgin when they met, and she had a single previous partner, her high school sweetheart of four years. While initial insecurities had plagued their relationship, they seemed to move past them—until that moment.
In a desperate attempt to win the woman over to his viewpoint, Ryan sought support from his mother, but she ended up siding with her. In a tense confrontation, Ryan, his mother, and OP argued vigorously in their living room about the symbolism tied to her chosen dress.
Even his mother pointed out that he was no longer a virgin, suggesting he should also wear red. The confrontation reduced Ryan to tears, yet he remained steadfast in his belief that her wearing white would deceive their wedding guests and insisted that the standards were somehow different for men.
What Did the Woman Decide?
The subsequent turn of events shook OP’s faith in the idea of marrying Ryan. In the aftermath of the argument, she couldn’t help but be “disgusted” by his actions, causing her to seriously reconsider their future together.
What confounded her even more was the fact that Ryan, who wasn’t particularly religious, was fixated on her past, especially her loss of virginity at 18, a time long before they had even met. This revelation weighed heavily on her, leading her to vent her frustrations openly, seeking understanding from anyone who would listen.
In a later update on the “Dating Advice” forum, dated November 24, 2022, OP found herself in an entirely new predicament. Having broken off her engagement in her late 20s, she faced her first date in six years at the time..
Her first date in several years was set at a lovely waterfront seafood restaurant in North Carolina in November, and she was unsure what attire would be appropriate. Commenters reportedly suggested she wear red.
After reading this story, do you concur with OP’s choice to end her engagement, or would you have chosen differently? Click here to read another story about a man who wanted his fiancée’s hymen to be checked by his dad in front of their family to know that she was still pure.