A man had posted on Reddit that he had changed his mind and would not pay for his daughter’s wedding after she had invited his brother, with whom he was at odds, to the nuptials. He then turned to Reddit users for advice.
After telling his story, he had expressed the issue between himself and his brother.
“I’m 46M, my brother 48M. When I was 20, my then girlfriend cheated with my brother. I was heartbroken and pissed. I told him he is no longer my brother. Despite my request, my family didnt cut him off, so I told them that I will never again be in the same place as he is. If they wish to invite both, then they should just invite him as I am the one giving ultimate.”
Then she said that her daughter had told him his brother would be receiving an invitation.
“My daughter is getting married in spring next year. In our culture both parents are paying for the wedding, 50/50. Unexpectedly, my daughter sat me down and told me that she will be inviting my brother and his family(he married my cheating ex). Apparently, she was seeing them for the last 4 years and built a relationship behind my back. She even wants her cousin to be some kind of flower girl.”
At that point, the father announced he would not be covering the portion of the wedding that he was supposed to.
“I was pissed. I told her what my boundaries are and if my brother is invited then I will not pay my part of the wedding. She became angry and told me its time to let go of the past. I told her its not her call to make. We argued some more and she told me I am making her wedding about myself. I told her I will probably not even attend so it will be all about her. She left crying.”
Then they all pointed the finger at him and called him an asshole.
“My ex-wife called me screaming and told me I’m huge AH and our daughter is crushed. Then my parents called, same thing. I told them off and now I’m ignoring their calls. My GF told me to reconsider and appologize. That by not paying and attending I will break relationship with my daughter. I don’t know. I think my boundaries should be respected. Am I a**hole for that?”
Here are some of the comments Redditors made under the post.